My husband

This title is ironic. Mainly because I have virgin lips (meaning never been kissed), never been in a committed relationship, and seem to only be led on by the elite Christian boys. If I were to tell you my relationship woes were all humorous and lighthearted, I would be a liar (although I've had some hilarious incidences). But with everyday I'm learning to hold on. Boy its tough. Especially since everyone I know is engaged, married, or pregnant! While I have never even been kissed?! It seems absurd, but I'm realizing there is a purpose. Nothing irritates me more than dating girls telling single girls "in due time." Or, "it'll happen." Shut your kissing face. In reality, singlehood says a lot. Thus, I'd like to sift out the things Satan has told me about being single and the things I believe God wants me to remember about being single. Satan's Lies 1. Being single is a sign of being unwanted. You're not worth entering into a relationship with, and based on your record, you never will be. 2. Being single is a statement of your beauty. Only ugly girls can be a senior in college and never had a boyfriend. 3. Being single defines you. God's Promises 1. You are always wanted. I wanted your heart so much, I died for it. Look for someone who will always protect your heart and your honor. 2. You're more beautiful than words can express. I see you in your worst moments and still love you. Don't forget that beauty reigns in the heart. 3. I define you. I got a little goosebumpy (yes, its a word) over that last one. "I define you." If you were watching me type this, you would see that I had to stop and just sit in God's presence. I think He needed me to be reminded of that. Truth is, singlehood has defined me. Ladies, I have cried at the feet of Jesus. I mean CRIED. If you think I'm a strong feminist that holds dear to my singlehood, think again. I have wept at the feet of Christ as I feel looked past. No one ever asked me to the prom, no one found me to be a worthy date. It was tough. Somedays I sob doubting my worth and what I have to offer. Here's the good part BUT God. Don't you love that? But God defines me. But God gives me strength. But God allows me to have affirming parents. But God holds my hand. But God died for a relationship with me. I'm in no way trying to make singlehood pain spiritual. I've been there, the godly girls (with the man on their arm, by the way) offer some of the most spiritual advice. Honestly, I don't think God would say the things they do. Sometimes I imagine God saying, yes it sucks. But I am God. Yes, you are lonely. But I am here. Yes, you are single. But not forever. Hallelujah. The truth is, my relationship status does define me. Its just a different relationship, a heavenly one. An eternal one, and a priceless one. What relationship defines you? Peace & Blessings.